Sis, Where’s Your Faith? 😳
Estimated reading time: 5–6 minutes
My beautiful sisters,
I was sharing honestly about my anxiety, depression, panic, and the struggles that sometimes make it difficult for me to leave home.
Then someone asked me:
“Where’s your faith?”
I was stunned.
I felt unheard. Invalidated. As though everything I had just shared had been reduced to a question about whether I believed God enough.
I am a woman of faith. I am blessed, and I know it. I have so much to be grateful for.
But in that moment, it felt as though those things meant I shouldn’t be hurting. That the pain shouldn’t even be there—and if it was, the conclusion must be that I didn’t have enough faith.
It was hurtful. It wasn’t helpful.
And, Sis, I know I’m not the only woman who has heard those words and felt that weight.
I Can Be Grateful and Still Be Hurting
There are days when I look around and recognize God’s goodness everywhere.
I have a safe place to call home. He has opened doors, renewed my purpose, and reminded me that He has not forgotten me.
There are also days when anxiety rises, tears come, and ordinary things feel difficult.
Both are part of my experience.
Gratitude and pain can exist in the same heart.
Acknowledging my struggle doesn’t erase my gratitude. Being blessed doesn’t mean I am untouched by grief, exhaustion, or emotional pain.
I can thank God for His goodness and tell Him, “Father, this is hard.”
I don’t have to hide what hurts to prove that I believe.
When Faith Becomes Another Thing to Perform
“Where’s your faith?” can leave a hurting woman asking:
Am I not praying enough?
Do I need to believe harder?
What am I doing wrong?
Now she is carrying her original pain and questioning her relationship with God because she hasn’t been able to make that pain disappear.
We need to be careful with one another’s hearts.
There is a place for lovingly encouraging someone to trust God. There is also a responsibility to listen, understand, and offer compassion.
Before questioning a sister’s faith, have we heard her story? Have we made room for what she is carrying?
Sometimes the most helpful thing we can say is, “I’m here. Tell me what’s been happening. How can I support you?”
A woman’s struggle is not proof that her faith has failed.
Jesus Didn’t Ask for Mountain-Sized Faith
Jesus spoke of faith the size of a mustard seed in Matthew 17:20.
Yet we can put pressure on ourselves to produce mountain-sized confidence—to feel certain, steady, and strong every moment before we believe our faith counts.
Our confidence rests in the One we trust.
We can come to Him with the faith we have today. We can believe He is able while admitting that we feel overwhelmed.
In Mark 9:24, a father seeking help for his child expressed both belief and a need for help with his unbelief. He brought that honest struggle directly to Jesus.
That gives me encouragement.
I can bring my questions. I can bring my tears. I can ask for help.
I don’t have to manufacture a feeling before I turn to Him.
Our Savior Understands Anguish
Jesus experienced grief, exhaustion, rejection, betrayal, and suffering.
In the Garden of Gethsemane, He expressed deep anguish and prayed to the Father. His surrender was real, and so was His distress.
His anguish did not cancel His obedience.
Hebrews 4:15–16 describes our compassionate High Priest and invites us to approach God’s throne of grace for mercy and help.
That is an invitation I want my sister to hear.
You can come to Him while you are hurting.
You can pray through tears.
You can be exhausted and still belong to Him.
Faith gives us someone to turn to in our humanity. We don’t have to pretend we have risen above it.
Know His Heart for Yourself
That painful question reminded me why it matters to know God for myself.
I need to know His character. His Word. His compassion.
When someone speaks into my life, I can consider what they say without allowing their opinion to determine my worth or become God’s verdict over me.
I can receive loving correction. I can grow in faith. And I can also recognize when a comment leaves my pain unheard.
God invites us to bring our burdens to Him. The Psalms are filled with honest cries of grief, questions, and longing.
He can receive the truth about where we are.
My sister, your hardest day does not put you outside His love.
You Can Trust God and Receive Help
If you are walking through anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, or another painful struggle, there is no shame in receiving support.
Prayer and professional care can be part of the same healing journey.
A trusted pastor, wise friend, physician, counselor, or licensed therapist may have something valuable to offer. You deserve support that listens carefully and takes your experience seriously.
Asking for help does not mean you have stopped trusting God.
Sometimes asking for help is the faithful next step available to you.
And sometimes moving forward means allowing someone to help you stand.
Sis, You Can Tell the Truth
If someone has asked, “Where’s your faith?” and left you feeling less than, I want you to hear this:
You are allowed to acknowledge your pain.
You are allowed to need support.
You are allowed to take time to heal.
You can love Jesus and have a hard day. You can believe His promises and still need someone to sit beside you while you cry.
Your suffering is not a scorecard for your spirituality.
I still have struggles. I’m still walking through healing.
But I know I am loved.
I know I can turn to God.
And I know I don’t have to hide my pain from Him.
So if you ask me where my faith is, here is my answer:
My faith is in Jesus. And I am bringing Him everything I’m walking through.
Purpose Prompt
Have you felt pressured to hide your pain because you thought a woman of faith shouldn’t feel that way? Spend a few quiet moments telling God honestly what hurts. Consider one person you could reach out to for compassionate support.
Prayer
Father, thank You that we can come to You honestly. You know our hearts, our struggles, and the burdens we sometimes struggle to put into words. Help us receive Your love without believing we must earn it by appearing strong. Teach us to recognize Your voice and weigh the words of others against Your truth. Give us wisdom to receive helpful care and strength for the next step. Make us compassionate toward our sisters, willing to listen and help carry their burdens. Thank You for meeting us with mercy and grace. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Stay Strong Body, Mind & Spirit
Queen V 👑
